Chris Widener's Newsletter
February 10, 2010
Issue 132

Celebrating the Life and Legacy of Jim Rohn
I was honored to be among the guest speakers at the Celebrating the Life and Legacy of Jim Rohn event in Anaheim, California, this past weekend. Members of Jim’s family, long-time friends and many other special guest speakers, including Anthony Robbins, Les Brown, Brian Tracy, Denis Waitley and Darren Hardy, paid tribute to Jim by sharing their thoughts and insights on some of his most powerful success principles. The event was attended by more than 1,300 people whose lives have been impacted by the wisdom of Jim Rohn.

It was a beautiful event worthy of honoring the man who touched millions of lives over the past 46 years through his seminars, books, articles and CDs. His life’s passion and inspiration was making a difference in people’s lives. The event was filmed and video clips will be posted to the Jim Rohn Tribute Site soon.

Warm regards,
Chris Widener

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In This Issue.......

1. Charting Your Course to Success
2. Made for Success Quote and Commentary
3. The Last Word...
4. Increase Your Sales Expertise!
5. More Information

1. Charting Your Course to Success

Recharging Your Relationship by Chris Widener

Now you may ask why I would write an article about developing better relationships. The reason is because I believe that those who are in a relationship will be significantly and directly affected in all areas of their life by how that relationship is going, and how healthy that relationship is. 

Research has proven that those who are happy at home are more productive and less stressful at work. Developing a better relationship with your mate can help you develop a better life and a better business! Here are some thoughts to chew on for developing a strong and healthy relationship with your mate.

Listen. Communication is the key to a lasting relationship and listening is the key to communicating. Too often when we are quiet we are not listening, but waiting to speak. Instead of listening to what our mate is saying, and intently trying to understand them, very often we are making mental notes of what we would like to say in response. This is particularly true for us males. We often are trying to find the weakness in our mate's argument, rather than really listening to the words that they're saying and the manner in which they're saying it. Why not take some time this week trying to internalize and understand your mate's words and feelings?

Schedule a regular time to go out or spend time together. With today's busy lifestyles, it is too easy to put our relationships on the backburner and take them for granted. While we might have every intention of spending regular time with our mate, we often find ourselves driven by a schedule that has us running in every direction and leaving us little time for our most important relationships. Work gets in the way. The kids get in the way. Our hobbies get in the way. We need to realize the value in the importance of that relationship with our mate and its effect on our total life. Then we need to make spending time with our mate a major priority by scheduling a specific time at least each week to get alone together, talk, and simply renew our relationship. Be sure to set some time aside each week to rediscover each other and enjoy your time together. Pencil it into your schedule and don't give up that spot. In fact, it is probably best if you and your mate sit down and decide what night will work each and every week, then put it into your daytimer. If someone asks you if you're available at that time, you tell them you already have an appointment. In the long run, that time that you spend with your mate will help you to become more of a success than you could ever mention.

Consider your mate's interests more important than your own. When each person has decided to give of themselves to the other, you form a reciprocating relationship of love, concern, and devotion. When you come to a place where you disagree or where the two of you have differing opinions, try to get to the point where you can consider what your mate likes as more important than what you would like to do. The simple decision to do this goes a long way toward developing a healthy relationship!

Learn your mate's love language. There is a lot of talk recently of love languages. What this is, is that each individual has certain ways they receive love from other people. Some people like to have time spent with them. Others like gifts, small or large. Still others respond best to personal touch. And others appreciate verbal affirmation. Our tendency is to show love the way that we like to receive love, but what will recharge our relationship fastest is to find out what way our mate likes to receive affirmations of our love. The next time you get a chance to speak to your mate, ask which of the above ways they like best to receive your demonstration of love. Then make a conscious effort to begin showing your love in that manner.

Do the small things you did when you first fell in love with your mate. Do remember when you were first in love? Remember the small things you did to show your love? But as time went along, you probably began to get weighed down with simply living life and forgot the small things that made the difference in the beginning. Things like a phone call in the middle of the day just to talk or say "I love you," an appreciative note, flowers, gifts, and opening doors. Recharge your relationship by consciously going back and doing the small things that you did when your love first began to grow.

Forgive. I've done a lot of work with couples having troubles, and one of the most common elements I find that is working against the development of their relationship is that they are holding something against the other and they aren't willing to forgive. The fact is that your mate is going to fail you from time to time. We need to understand that. What we do when we get to that point however, is what will make all the difference in the world. In a relationship that is going to last, the people involved are committed to forgiving one another. Those whose relationships last longest, and will be the healthiest, are those who are committed to forgiveness.

I hope these thoughts are helpful to you in recharging your love relationship. I truly believe that if we will put these principles into practice we will see our relationships grow in ways they never have before, and that in turn will make our whole life better.

2. Made for Success Quote and Commentary

“Laughter is the shortest distance between two people.” —Victor Borge

Chris's Commentary:
Have you ever run across somebody who you just couldn't seem to get along with? Maybe you don't fight but there is just something there? While I do believe that we have to communicate and address issues with one another, I am more and more coming to believe that perhaps the key to breakthrough in these kinds of relationships is to set aside the "issues" and develop your friendship, with an emphasis on having fun and even laughing together. This has been born out in research by a professor at the University of Washington in regard to marriage. He found that when the couple focused on regaining the friendship and fun of the earlier stages of their relationship, the other issues became less important and even dropped away. I think this is generally true in all relationships.
Fun and laughter can triumph over lots of perturbing things.

Action Point:
Think of that person who has been grating on you, especially if it is based on an "issue." Ask them to lunch or a ball game. Anything that can put you in an easier situation. Tell them you just want to get to know one another better and focus in on the enjoyment of it. Don't even bring up the issue between you. You will be amazed at how this may be the breakthrough you were looking for.

3. The Last Word...

Go-Givers Sell More
My great friends, Bob Burg and John David Mann have done it again. You might recall their smash bestseller, The Go-Giver. In this business parable, they shared their by now famous Five Laws of Stratospheric Success. The book touched a lot of lives (over 150,000 in just its first two years) and was a Wall St. Journal and BusinessWeek bestseller.

Their brand new book is Go-Givers Sell More. And, it’s terrific (I even provided them with an endorsement, so I’m telling you this firsthand)!

In this book, Burg and Mann take the Five Laws and gear them specifically to the sales process.

As usual, they are contrarian. They’ll tell you things that you not only have not heard before, but also you’ll see why what you haven’t heard has kept you from obtaining the sales and financial success that you deserve.

Most of all, you’ll learn what the truly successful salespeople know…that the rest of the sales world doesn’t. And, if there was nothing more to say about the book, that would be enough reason to purchase it.

Go to www.GoGiversSellMore.com right now and get the Introduction; a fascinating look at “The Truth about Selling” and Chapter One. Then click through and pre-order the book.

By the way, aside from providing their readers with an exceptional amount of value for a very low price, my two friends have a huge goal in mind, and that is for this gem of a book to debut on the New York Times Bestsellers List. So, we’re asking everyone to pre-order it now and be amongst the first to read it. —Chris Widener

4. Increase Your Sales Expertise!

“The selling process is a two-part sequence. First, you must educate yourself. Then, you must educate your client.” —Tom Hopkins

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